Saturday, December 19, 2009

Screaming when Daddy's around - 20 month old

Zo Ee at 20month 1week old. (19/12/2009)

When Mummy and Zo Ee are alone at home, little Zo Ee behaves very well and not a single screaming,crying or whining. Little Zo Ee will ask Mummy politely for things or request. Little Zo Ee is always playing or reading independently. Mummy has no problem with her at all and she will always obey Mummy. Thus, the house is always peaceful and quiet.

But little Zo Ee is behaving very differently lately especially when Daddy's around. Little Zo Ee will be screaming to get things done her way or just to get our attention. Little Zo Ee seems like another person; very impatient, throwing tantrum occasionally, and most of the time, won't even listen to Mummy and never listen to Daddy at all. Little Zo Ee will struggle with Daddy to have her way. And this is the latest scene at home during past weekends; a complete messy home with toys everywhere and a screaming toddler. Mummy dreads these weekends and Monday as little Zo Ee will still carry this screaming behaviour to the following Monday. Luckily, Mummy is still able to reverse this bad behaviour and having a few peaceful weekdays before the whole cycle repeats again on the weekend, when Daddy doesn't have to work.

Why is little Zo Ee behaving badly lately only when Daddy is around? So this must have to do with Daddy, who usually will not response or pay attention to her unless she screams, thus the confuse little Zo Ee thought screaming is the way to get things done her way. That's why is not fair to punish the child who is behaving like this because of poor parenting. It's the parent to be blamed for this bad behaviour and not the little child. And sadly to say, this is only one simple example comparing to the many poor parenting scene out there where parents always blaming the children for misbehaving and punished them. But if one were to think it over, it is poor parenting (inconsistency or misleading practice )that encouraged the children to behave badly in certain way.

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